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A Caution to Single Parents

Today in class we read a book called The Spider and the Fly based on a poem by Mary Howitt and beautifully illustrated by Tony DiTerlizzi. The poetry portrays a cunning spider who is deviously trying to persuade a dear fly into his home. At first the fly refuses saying she knows what happens to those who give in to the spider’s persuasions. The next day when the fly comes by the spider lures her in with his flattery words and she never returns. As I sat in class thinking about this tragic tale I likened it to us as … Continue reading →

Depression Among Single Parents

Most single parents experience some form of depression at one time or another throughout their parenting career. What may have begun as sadness may have developed into something far greater. There are times when extreme emotional trauma can throw your body into an extreme chemical imbalance. This isn’t your fault; it is your body’s response to the chaos going on around you. Depression is more than just a deep sadness at your situation. Most of us aren’t thrilled at our circumstances as a single parent, but when you are depressed you may feel consumed by that sadness. You may feel … Continue reading →

I’m So Much More Than Single

What is the most important part of your title as a single mother? Which really defines you? Are you single first and a mother second, or are you a mother first? For me, it’s always about Hailey, my real identity is as her mother, being single in not even in the top ten words that are part of my identity. I am a mother, daughter, sister, friend, valued employee, writer, quilter, voracious reader, animal lover and a creative baker. I just happen to be single. Being single doesn’t define me yet too many times that becomes who I am. I … Continue reading →

Forever Single

So much of my identity is tangled up with being a single mom, I really can’t imagine being married again. When I was first divorced I dreamed of the day that I would meet someone and finally have my happily ever after. I dated, a lot, I was determined to find my Mr. Right and get on with the rest of my life. Well, here we are almost nine years later and Mr. Right has not shown himself. Now I have a different perspective and wonder if I will ever get married again. There are many reasons people get married, … Continue reading →

Forever is Worth the Wait

Being single is rough, especially when you have children who are depending on you to smile through it. While I have done my fair share of dating since my divorce, I feel like I am the only one that is still single. Every time I hear of another engagement I find myself feeling a little nostalgic, thinking, “I remember what that was like.” Dating has been a whole different ball game now that I’m divorced. Before it seemed so simple. All you had to worry about was, “Does he or doesn’t he?” Now the decision effects more than just me, … Continue reading →

Benefits To Being A Single Parent

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As a parent, every day I’m amazed to see the young woman my daughter is turning into. I think that is true for all parents, we look at our children and there is so much joy that we get to be a part of something so wonderful. As a single parent there is a little sadness mixed with that joy, sadness that our kids don’t get to grow up in an intact family, that Daddy doesn’t help tuck them in every night. But always there is joy and pride in watching them grow and seeing the men and women they … Continue reading →

Forever a Mother

The word “mother” encompasses many avenues. A single mother’s role is two-fold. We are the parents, the mother, the father, the doctor, the healer of “boo-boos”, the advisor, the disciplinarian, the playmate, the teacher, the breadwinner, the entertainment committee, the bodyguard, the arms that hold them tight when they are scared, sad, or lonely and so much more. A mother is the one that sits by their bed when they are sick, the one that lets them crawl in next to them in the middle of the night we they have had a bad dream. A mother is the one … Continue reading →

A Horse of a Different Color: Single Parenthood of a Widow/Widower

Becoming a single parent by virtue of a divorce is devastating to some, a relief to others, depending on the circumstances. You may have had a wonderful spouse and thought that your marriage was unbreakable. Surprisingly, one day the carpet is ripped out from underneath you and you are hit with some surprising facts about your significant other that you were not aware. That is when the roof caves in and everything you thought you knew was a lie. To others, you might have fallen out of love, had an abusive partner, or a partner who just did not want … Continue reading →

Single Parenting: Keeping the Faith When You Are Feeling Down

We all have bad days. You know, the days when you wake up and the kids do not cooperate, a co-worker says something to break your spirit, and you cannot wait until bedtime. Although rushing through my day and waiting with baited breath for the end of the day is no way to go through life, I have done it myself as well. It does not make me feel too good either, but I have been there. I usually end up feeling guilty that I wished for such a thing because life is just too short as it is. On … Continue reading →

Single Parents and Birthday Party Budgeting

Having a birthday party can take a chunk out of your wallet. Having more than a couple of kids to give a party for can lead us to the poorhouse if we are not careful. This is true for parents everywhere, but a single parent or families with one income can feel the pinch that much worse. With the faltering economy being what it is most of us are leery about spending money unnecessarily. Just about every kid’s place in town now offers to “host” your child’s birthday party. This is great because that leaves the parents with one very … Continue reading →