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Happily Divorced

I know what you’re thinking, “Wait a second, can divorce and happy really be in the same sentence together?” Yes, this was no mistake. I am here to testify to you that undoubtedly you can be divorced and happy at the same time. When people find out that I’m divorced there is usually a moment of shock. I’m quite young, and most often when they find out I have a three year old little boy they just assume that I am married. When I tell them otherwise it is almost always the same response. “Oh no! I am so sorry!” … Continue reading →

Divorced Dads Out in the Cold

An article in the Sun Herald on Sunday by Danielle Teutsch, highlighted some of the problem being faced by families where there is divorce. The Australian Institute of Family Studies tells us that 22 percent of Australian children have divorced or separated parents. Around 45,000 children are currently affected by divorce. Half of the divorces in Australia involve children. As Mick and I go into schools to teach children it is apparent to us just how many of the children are affected. Many have a father living in another state that they only get to see once or twice a … Continue reading →

What Divorced Dads Can Learn from Russell Simmons

Listen up mad dads… here’s something you don’t hear everyday: Unlike some fathers, Russell Simmons “very happily” pays child support. No kidding. Despite various news publications making it sound as though he’s being forced to pay out huge sums of cash in child support, rap mogul Russell Simmons insists he “very happily volunteered” to fork over the dough. Simmons set the record straight on his divorce settlement yesterday. In an online message to fans the music tycoon says that he wasn’t “ordered” to pay $40,000 a month in child support payments to his daughters Ming, 9, and Aoki, 6, rather … Continue reading →

Happily Ever After

You fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. Right? Wrong! Statistics show that many marriages in Australia end in divorce and those who divorce once often end up remarried and divorced again. No doubt it is similar in other countries. So what has gone wrong? Could it be the attitude with which people approach marriage? It’s almost like some people approach it with the idea that it can easily be undone if it doesn’t work out. And we have the examples of so many celebrities who marry and divorce in a short space of time and move … Continue reading →

The Pros and Cons of Co-Parenting

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There are times when the “happily ever after” ends in divorce. When this happens, couples who are parents must sort out custody and visitation rights. Co-parenting is an option that may work out well for couples that can get along with each other post-divorce. There are also situations where co-parenting just isn’t going to work smoothly. Positive Aspects of Co-Parenting There is a celebrity example of what co-parenting looks like when it works well. Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony split up in 2011. In 2015, they posted on Instagram a family photo from the birthday party of their 7-year-old twins. … Continue reading →

It’s Ok to Cry

I don’t know anyone who’s gone through a divorce without a few tears along the way. The whole process is incredibly painful, whether you were the one that wanted the divorce or not. No one ever gets married with the intent of getting divorced. You expect to grow old with that person, to live happily ever after, and for whatever reason that just isn’t going to happen anymore. Life the way you know it is suddenly very, very different. Divorce changes everything. It is natural to feel a wide array of emotions at this time. I felt as if I … Continue reading →

Your Typical American Mormon Family

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So, I was watching the Today show this morning and there was a lot of focus on Mitt Romney and the Republican Convention. Big surprise there, I know. The story also included the subject of MItt Romney’s faith because apparently he is going to speak about it in his speech tomorrow night. So, once again, Mormonism is in the spotlight. But, one thing that surprised me was that they said that most people don’t know a lot about our faith. And, I thought, really? Sure, maybe you don’t know a lot about specific theology, like the fact that we do … Continue reading →

Fairytale Endings

As little girls we spent our days dreaming of that knight in shining armor who was going to sweep us off our feet. He’d lift us up onto that white horse of his and we’d ride off into the sunset to find a world of perfect children who always listened, were never dirty, and cleaned their rooms without ever being asked. There is never any laundry and the dishes are always clean. Then we grew up and had to find out for ourselves that life isn’t quite the fairytale we always dreamed of. My son rarely listens, is usually dirty, … Continue reading →

The Dating Dilemna

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Eventually you are going to want to date again. When I first got divorced I thought I was ready to date but I quickly found out that neither Hailey or I was ready. So I stopped, it wasn’t hard, I wasn’t having that much fun anyway and dealing with a sullen child after one of my dates made it even less fun. When you step back into the dating world you have to be prepared for the effect it will have on your relationship with your child. This is a very confusing time for kids, they still believe in happily … Continue reading →

This is the Rest of Your Life

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Have you grieved for your marriage? If not, you can’t heal. Although it’s not an actual death it is the death of your dream, that one that you’ve been carrying in your heart since you were a teenager. Mom and Dad who love each other raising a few perfect kids in a house with a white picket fence. It’s hard to let go and in order to let go you have to grieve what is lost. I’m not saying that you should wallow in that grief but just know that it is part of the process. Give yourself time to … Continue reading →