There are many different ways one can come into single parenting. The majority of my blogs are focused on the divorce aspect of single parenting, but today I’d like to look at the other side. I teach Sunday School at my church. My class is full of five year olds, all of whom come from single parent families. I knew this going in, but hadn’t really thought much about how each child came into this situation. Most, like my own son, have experienced the divorce of their parents, which is difficult in and of itself, but one explained to me … Continue reading →

One of the benefits of being a single parent is that you get a lot of one on one time with your child. You develop an even deeper bond with them because you are depending on each other to pull you through the hard times. It’s been almost a year now since my ex husband and I got divorced and I have gotten rather used to having this one on one time with my son. Life is always busy, running this way and that, but at least we are together. When I started dating again I never anticipated how uncomfortable … Continue reading →

Kids love sock puppets. They are easy to make and we all have some old socks laying around. Just throw on some googly eyes and poof! You have a new little friend for your little one. You can make these as simple or elaborate as you want. You can add little antennas and turn your friend into a bug, add some little ears and make yours a puppy, the sky is the limit. While these do make great toys, they also can serve a much higher purpose. Logan had an imaginary friend named Greta. He played with her, talked with … Continue reading →

I was heartbroken over my divorce. I still remember driving to the lawyer’s office with tears streaming down my face. I was devastated. Logan was sitting quietly in the back seat, the weight of the world was on my shoulders. That little boy meant everything to me. I could see the pain in his eyes, even though he didn’t fully understand what was going on at the time. His little life was being turned upside down because of choices he had no part of. I sat in front of that office with what seemed like an ocean of tears running … Continue reading →

When I was going through my divorce I remember feeling like I had felt every emotion in the book in a matter of days. One minute I would feel relief, the next I was angry, hurt, frustrated, confused, depressed, and then I would start all over again. I was on an emotional rollercoaster that I couldn’t get off of. I’d start to deal with one emotion and then before I knew it I was on to the next even before I had begun to deal with the first. I was so overwhelmed with all of the feelings I was feeling … Continue reading →

Whether the divorce was wanted or not it is still ok to grieve what could have and should have been. We all want nothing more than for our kids to have their parents together, to have what I like to call that “fantasy family,” the one where you and your kids all live happily ever after. When I first got divorced, no one could understand why I was so devastated. The marriage had been a disaster long before it had even started. I was miserable and didn’t even realize it, but I wanted it back. I did not want to … Continue reading →

Within a few weeks of my divorce people were already anxiously waiting to set me up. I desperately wanted to move on with my life, but was still grieving the loss of my marriage. I battled with myself constantly. At first I just wanted to fill the void that was left when my ex walked out. I felt an intense loneliness that I wanted nothing more than to be rid of. My self-esteem was shot and I honestly thought, “Who in the world is going to want me now? I’m divorced and have a three year old. Who in their … Continue reading →

When going through a divorce emotions are running high for everyone, especially the children. They are dealing with the loss in much the same way they would if there had been a death. They are grieving what once was. They had no say in this decision, yet it effects their lives dramatically. Some children take longer to go through the grieving process than others. But if you are there helping them and guiding them through this process it will help them get to the acceptance stage much more quickly. Denial: No child wants to believe that his parents are splitting … Continue reading →