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It is Up to Us to Get Things Under Control

Recently, I had a message or request arrive in my e-mail inbox—a mother of four asking for recommendations for books that would help her “wild” children learn about rules and regulations and how to get themselves under control. Alas, that really isn’t the way it is done. It is up to us as parents—even if we are over-stretched single parents—to get our lives, our children, and our families under control. Or, at least to do our very best to take the helm and steer our worlds! I do have compassion, I understand how it can seem easier just to throw … Continue reading →

Be Clear Before Taking Action

We single parents don’t usually have someone to bounce parenting ideas and suggestions off of, or someone handy to help us work through things to make sure we are seeing things clearly. I think this is one of the main reasons that single parents can sometimes seem inconsistent. We feel like we have to take some sort of action, and we do that before we are completely clear that we are looking at things from a reasonable perspective. This is why I think it is sometimes necessary for us to take a little extra time and make sure that we … Continue reading →

Can You Look at Things Objectively Yet?

Objectivity does not come naturally or easily for many of us. It can take time and personal work before we are able to look at something traumatic that has happened and see it from an objective perspective. For those of us who have become single parents through a separation, divorce, or death—the emotions and subjectivity can be so strong and compelling, that it takes a while before we can get to a more objective place. Objectivity is key to recovery and being able to get on with our lives, however. Are you still harboring blame for your ex-spouse or others … Continue reading →