Adolescence May Bring Up Ancient History

Just when I think that we have all settled in to a groove and have completely recovered from the trauma of divorce and the crisis our family faced all those years ago–things tend to reappear. I’ve been told by the “experts” that it is perfectly normal and healthy for “old issues” to reappear with kids–especially when they go through big developmental leaps and changes–like adolescence. As kids grow and develop–they tend to get a “new lease” on old issues. There may be things that they just weren’t able to face or cope with when they were younger and as they … Continue reading

Keeping Your Kids in the Loop During Transition and Change

As single parents, we have to watch out that we don’t have messy boundaries with our children and tell them TOO much; being careful not to turn to our kids as we would an adult peer or partner. But, on the other side of the coin, we do have to make sure that we include them in discussions that affect the family and keep them in the loop when we are going through times of insecurity, transition and major change. When custody arrangements change, or there are job changes on the horizon, as well as during a separation, divorce, etc.–we … Continue reading