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Battling Loneliness

Loneliness. It’s something that we have all felt in our lifetimes. As a single parent you may feel as if it is your constant companion. At the end of the day there is no one there to share in your triumphs or your struggles. There is no one there to help carry the heavy burden of parenting your children and it often leaves you feeling incredibly alone. This has been a constant struggle for me since my divorce. I yearned for the companionship that I had lost in my marriage. I wanted someone to talk to when I was frustrated … Continue reading →

Loneliness is Normal (But Not Necessary)

It would be negligent not to bring up the subject of loneliness when working through all the issues that affect single parents. After all, I think that simple loneliness can be blamed for all sorts of poor decisions on the part of many a single parent! We might date people we shouldn’t, or make unhealthy choices in what we eat or do—all because we feel so darn lonely. Now, I am of the opinion that loneliness is completely normal for a single parent—but it doesn’t HAVE to be necessary… There are several ways to cope with loneliness, but I think … Continue reading →

Forever a Mother

The word “mother” encompasses many avenues. A single mother’s role is two-fold. We are the parents, the mother, the father, the doctor, the healer of “boo-boos”, the advisor, the disciplinarian, the playmate, the teacher, the breadwinner, the entertainment committee, the bodyguard, the arms that hold them tight when they are scared, sad, or lonely and so much more. A mother is the one that sits by their bed when they are sick, the one that lets them crawl in next to them in the middle of the night we they have had a bad dream. A mother is the one … Continue reading →

Cherish Yourself First (Don’t Lose Yourself in Your Kids)

As single parents, we often put so much energy into our families, and work so hard to counter-balance some of the realities of being a solo-parent family, that our entire identity can get completely encompassed by parenthood. I am the first person to admit that I put my family first and have a tendency to think of myself as a mom above all else. But, the truth is, I am ME first, and I do fill a lot of other roles and wear a lot of other hats besides my “mom hat.” The most important thing, I’ve learned, is that … Continue reading →

Don’t Get Discouraged When Rebuilding Your Life

Life after a separation, divorce, death or other crisis that has brought you to single parenthood can be a real roller coaster. Even for those of us who CHOOSE to become single parents, the realities of life as a solo mom or dad may be quite different from what we expected. The important thing is to have patience with yourself and with the adjustment process; keep putting one foot in front of the other, and try not to get discouraged. Rebuilding a life can be tough! No one said it was going to be easy, sure, but many of us … Continue reading →