After a divorce it is normal to feel a void in your life, to feel that bitter emptiness of what once was. You want someone by your side to share in your child’s triumphs. You want someone to turn to when you’ve had a long day. Loneliness becomes your constant companion. For me, this was my downfall. No one likes to feel lonely. I was vulnerable and alone and looking for something to fill that void. I became an easy target because I let my guard down. Does it ever feel like men have this sixth sense? At least the … Continue reading →

I was talking to a dear, dear friend of mine a few months ago about how frustrated I was with the dating scene post-divorce. I’ve dated my fair share of real winners. It’s become quite disheartening. I was on the verge of losing all hope in the male species when this sweet friend of mine reminded me that I couldn’t blame the tree for producing bad fruit if I was only picking off the dead branches. It was then that I realized I had been picking off the wrong branches all along. I’ve never been a patient woman. It would … Continue reading →

So often we hear the phrase, “listen to your heart,” but sometimes it is more important to listen to your head. I recently got out of a relationship where I let my heart get the better of me. I was hearing all the things I wanted to hear, yet my head kept telling me something wasn’t right. There were warning signs left and right, but I shoved them aside because I didn’t want to believe that they were there. I was too caught up in what my heart was feeling that I failed to listen to what my head was … Continue reading →

As you find yourself venturing out into the dating world again, it is crucial that you decide what your deal breakers are so that you don’t end up in another bad marriage. We all have certain things we want in a spouse. If you’re like most women you’ve been making that list from the time you were a little girl. You dreamed of how wonderful your life would be after Prince Charming came rushing in to sweep you off your feet. Then you found out Prince Charming wasn’t quite as charming as you thought and found yourself single again, but … Continue reading →

Today in class we read a book called The Spider and the Fly based on a poem by Mary Howitt and beautifully illustrated by Tony DiTerlizzi. The poetry portrays a cunning spider who is deviously trying to persuade a dear fly into his home. At first the fly refuses saying she knows what happens to those who give in to the spider’s persuasions. The next day when the fly comes by the spider lures her in with his flattery words and she never returns. As I sat in class thinking about this tragic tale I likened it to us as … Continue reading →