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Dealing with the Emotions of Going BACK to Court

Unfortunately, spending time in court can be part of the experience of many single parents. Some of us get off easily with simple divorce proceedings while others of us may have on-going custody battles or have to work things out in front of a judge because they cannot be worked out in any other way. When we think we have finished with the court appearances and court battles, however, and we suddenly find ourselves BACK in front of a judge, it can be disheartening, stressful and emotional. Years may have passed since you were in a courtroom and suddenly you … Continue reading →

Taking Back Your “Maiden” Name

When I got divorced several years ago, I couldn’t decide what to do about the “last name” problem. While my divorce decree stated that I could take back my “maiden” name, I decided to keep the married last name while I was raising my kids since it seemed to make things easier. Plus, for most things, I had always used both of my names anyway. Now that my children are nearly grown and it doesn’t seem like such a big deal that our last names “match”—I think I am ready to start the process to drop that long-used “married name,” … Continue reading →

Different Ideas About Boundaries

I have probably had to over-compensate in the boundary department with my “side” of a post-divorce family due to very different ideas about such things with my children’s father. Believe it or not, I have only been inside his house once and I am constantly having to remind him that he cannot come in my house when I’m not home. And, we have been divorced for YEARS… The other day, my kids were sharing with me how at the other house, they “joke” about my strong boundaries. I think they said that folks over there actually say “boundaries! Boundaries!” in … Continue reading →

Resolving Legal Issues Can Take Time

For many of us, our single family status has a legal component. We have either been through a separation or a divorce, or there may have been a death, or even if we became single parents by choice—there may be custody agreements and legal documents that help clarify our family status. Anyone who has ever been through a legal process can testify that these sorts of things take time. It can make it challenging to heal and get on with our lives when legal issues can really take a very long time… Keeping the legal pieces of our lives separate … Continue reading →