Things Not To Say (Or Do) To Your Single Parent Partnerby Angel Lynn Diamond | More from this Blogger 17 May 2009 06:37 AM If you are dating or have ever dated a single parent it can be a little tricky in the area of courtesy and respect. There are, of course, certain things that should remain unsaid even though your brain is thinking it. If you care about this person, zip your lip, lest you lose your Love. There may come a time that you can bring the topic up, but it has to be done ever so gently and ever so carefully, cautiously and whatever else makes us "walk on eggs". Here are just a few things not to say or do to a single mom or dad that you care for: Do not make your partner choose between you and their kids. This is really bad. You will, I am sure, lose. You will not only lose, but also lose a great deal of respect, possibly even the relationship, but you will be hurt while doing it. We all know the kids will come first so do not be foolish. We know it, but we do not need to hear it. Be careful with how you approach negative topics about your partner's child. If your advice is asked for, speak, but speak with thought. Be gentle. Remember, your kids are not perfect either. Nobody is. If your opinion is not asked for, listen and think of something encouraging to say. Always remember what your mama taught you too....."If you do not have anything nice to say, then say nothing at all". (I can still hear my mama.) Do not rush them. Give them time. Time to think, time to adjust, time to be comfortable, time to trust. The past was scary for them. It holds some very good memories, I am sure, but it also holds some very hurtful memories. Forcing them to make decisions that they are not ready to make will just put pressure on them and make them uneasy. Do not play games. Nobody needs them, especially not someone who is in a second relationship. Time is getting shorter. There is no room for games and wasted time. Make the most of your time on this earth by being totally up front and honest. Your partner will appreciate it. Being with a person who is a single parent is a little complicated, but that is how second relationships usually are. There is baggage. We can choose to be alone without those complications and possibly miss out on being with a really great person who brings additional joy to our lives. On the other hand, we can accept the baggage, deal with it, and enjoy the love and companionship in our lives once again. You have to choose if it is worth it. If you find a special person it just very well may be worth the hassle and baggage that a second time around brings. Angel Lynn writes in weight loss, single parenting, and health. Learn more about Angel Lynn Diamond  I am a mom to my precious one and only, a nurse in a heartwarming adult living facility, and a freelance writer. Relevantsingle parenting tags User Comments Andromeda07734 (5) 18 May 2009 12:19 AMI thought the following found at http://www.mamasfault.com/mamas_conversation.html and don't know if this sort of thing is appropriate for discusison here. It is written from the standpoint of the Black American but has relevance to those who would appear on the Jeremy Kyle Show. If not, sorry but perhaps you will come to http://thebattlefieldoflove.blogspot.com/ and post your comments on this. If yes, let's talk! WHAT is your definition of a Slut or a Whore? WHY do women attract crap in the first place (guys as well as in life)? HOW do guys view women in various social scenes? WHAT type of guy will marry a woman with kids and WHY? WHY and HOW are single mothers producing psychologically and emotionally weak males? WHEN does the destruction of the African-American Race begin and WHERE must we start to stop it? Discuss this article
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