When our children are younger, we single parents can have a bit more control over custody and visitation arrangements. During the holidays, many of us have very definite, written, court documents that state who will go where and for how long. As children get older, however, and start into adulthood–they no longer have someone making those decisions and choices for them and have to start making them on their own. It can be very difficult and painful for a child who feels like she is torn between two (or more) different worlds. I wrote earlier in the holiday season about … Continue reading →