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Weighing Yourself

When it comes to weighing yourself, you might be wondering how often you should do it and when the best time to do it is. I have been enjoying the Wii Fit Plus for the past week now and one of the benefits to this program is that it will show you exactly what your BMI is and how much you weigh. They suggest doing a daily body test to check where you are at. I have lost weight but I notice slight fluctuations, going either up or down. The system would point out to me that it’s best to … Continue reading →

How to Make Your Marriage the Exception to the Rule

Michele commented yesterday that it’s a shame lasting love these days is seen as the exception rather than the rule. I agree. But when it does exist, other people notice. A young woman, who had not had the most positive examples of marriage and relationships in her own life, so far commented recently to her friend and her husband about how ‘they always looked out for each other.’ You see, when people look out for their spouse it shows. That means being aware of the things that are going on in your spouse’s life and not being so self absorbed … Continue reading →

Men: The Weaker Sex?

Before I begin, I just want to say that, even though the title might suggest otherwise, this article isn’t intended to be a slam against men. Rather, it’s just some reflections on things I’ve seen regarding boyfiends and husbands over the past 10 years during my stint as a stay-at-home wife. Not that I’ve had all sorts of relationships with other men. But I’ve had lots and lots of talks with my women friends. It was when I was living in Jacksonville that I noticed a pattern forming where our husbands were concerned. And ever since I noticed it, I … Continue reading →

Sudden Power Struggles with the Ex

Things may be going along nicely in your co-parenting relationship; you may have worked out a communication style that suits the both of you, you might even get along with your ex’s new partner and everyone seems content and well-adjusted. Suddenly, without warning, tempers flare and you find yourself in and power struggle or dealing with long-buried old issues that have shown up again. What can you do to diffuse the situation? I have learned to expect “flare-ups” during times of stress or transition—when the kids entered high school, for example, or with the current graduations. Any time you are … Continue reading →

Are You Focusing Too Much on Yourself?

Think of your worst sales experience ever–a time when you genuinely wanted to make a purchase but had a terrible time connecting with the salesperson who also obviously wanted to make the sale. Chances are, one of the main reasons that things were not working out is that the salesperson was not listening to you–he or she may have been being too self-absorbed; too focused on his or herself. As you strive to promote and grow your business, are you committing the big crime and focusing too much on yourself instead of on what your customers or clients need and … Continue reading →

When the Ex is Self-Absorbed

There are many of us single parents who are divorced or separated who may not have the highest of opinions of the “ex.” We might be convinced that he or she is all sorts of awful and has multiple personality deficiencies—some of which may or may not actually be true. One of the complaints that come up again and again by single parents of both genders is that the other parent or the ex is “self-absorbed.” What does this actually mean and what can we do to make communication more successful? A self-absorbed person is self-focused and believes or acts … Continue reading →

The Self-Centeredness DOES Get to Me

First I’d like to say that I adore my kids–and on most occasions I have complete faith that they will evolve into caring, considerate and contributing adults. But, the reality of childhood and adolescence is that kids have a tendency to be amazingly self-centered. As we work to introduce all that caring, consideration, etc. into our children’s character, we are still battling against the typical self-centeredness that seems to be developmentally appropriate for a child. And, I’m here to tell you that it does sometimes aggravate me to no end! I don’t know if it is environmental or inherent in … Continue reading →

Expecting Kids to Be Reactionary

When I think back to how I formed my identity and my understanding of myself in my growing up years, I realize that a great deal of it was in direct reaction to my parents. As an adolescent, many of my core decisions were made based on doing the opposite of what my parents did! I wanted to be my own person and all I knew was that my “own person” had to be completely different from who they were. I think we have to expect that our children will start to formulate their own identities based on trying to … Continue reading →

Self Tanning Without The Streaks

Every day, it seems, there’s a new option for self-tanners. Creams, sprays, foams — and that’s just the stuff you can do yourself. You could also go for a professional tan, like in a booth or an airbrush tan. But if you’re a do-it-yourselfer like I am, you’ll find these tanning tips useful. Exfoliate first. Why bother tanning the dead skin? You can use an exfoliating mitt or even a dry washcloth to buff your body in or out of the shower. You can use an exfoliating scrub with salt or sugar in it to polish dry skin away. Try … Continue reading →

Can Your Children Express How They Feel?

Personal expression is one of the cornerstones of good communication. In order for our children to develop strong self-esteem, be able to advocate for themselves ,and have healthy relationships with other people, they need to learn that expressing how they feel is allowed and encouraged. As parents, we are challenged with not only helping our children develop good communication skills, but also creating an environment where our children can say and express how they feel–NO MATTER WHAT… Most of us grew up in families where certain behaviors were tolerated and welcome and others were not. Teaching our kids to feel, … Continue reading →