You Might Only Be Seeing a "Piece" of Thingsby Kori Rodley Irons | More from this Blogger 28 Dec 2007 09:46 PM We all have a tendency to THINK we know what is going on; we have formed our own opinions, looked over what we think is happening and have made a decision about what is going on. The fact is, however, that we are often only seeing a piece or a fragment of the whole picture, and we might not be taking into account that there are other ways of looking at things. For those of us who go through a separation or divorce on our way to becoming single parents, or have some other crisis that divides our families into at least two different "camps"-it can be really tough not to get into "us" and "them" thinking or be absolutely convinced that one side, our side is RIGHT and the other side is definitely wrong. In reality, it usually depends on what side of the fence you are standing on and whose camp you are in as to how you actually see a situation. Unless we practice looking at various angles, we can get trapped into only seeing a problem or circumstance from one limited viewpoint. Our children, however, are often caught in between those two camps-they really DO have a tendency to see both sides as having merit and it is in their nature and best interest often to NOT choose sides. It can be a little shocking to realize that our children may be seeing a much larger part of a problem or be seeing things more objectively than we are! If we want to have credibility and authority with our children, we might need to take our blinders off and try to be more objective and neutral-or at least see various sides to the problem or situation for our child's sake. Keep in mind that there usually is much more to any "story" than even those that are living through it realize. Also:Know Your Own Limits Taking the Focus Off Ourselves for a While Present Circumstances or Past Issues? Learn more about Kori Rodley Irons  Bio has been removed by administrator Relevantsingle parenting tags User Comments Natalie-in-ok (5) 02 Jan 2008 05:41 PMThis is so true. Community Tags objectivity, perspective, subjectivity Discuss this article
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